Mystery behind resembling others

30th January 2025,

Third day of blogging.

     Have you ever felt like losing your essence, or your uniqueness? I mean, at some point when you're talking with someone the inner voice of you, tells you that this is not how you talk or behave. You won't sound like YOU but like some other person. It could be your mom, your friend, your colleague, or ever your professor. Have you ever caught a feeling of being overtaken by their action, slang, mannerism, and speech style?

Like, out of no where you realise that the way you're acting right now seems to  resemble someone. After uttering a random word you might feel like, it doesn't belongs to your vocabulary. Let's say you're not a person of sarcasm but you find yourself to be after spending time with a person who often pulls sarcasm.

It is a psychological and linguistic phenomenon that is referred as linguistic accomodation or mirroring. Which is completely a human thing. Liking, admiring or getting inspired by someone's accent, slang, behaviour, or gesture are the main factors that feeds this phenomenon. The strong speech pattern around you, starts to influence your own pattern. But what if I tell you that this socio linguistic adaptation can also influence or invade your speech pattern without your acknowledgement? Yes, it's a part of communication adoption theory (CAT) which explains the fact of adopting something even if you're not indented to. Exposing yourself to a repeated social interaction makes you to pick up the words out of your vocabulary. 

And that's how people learn to use bad and inappropriate words. Some does learn them intentionally from their friends, parents, teachers or even from a social media influencer.

Thinking that it is 'cool' to say. 

But it can also happen unintentionally as I mentioned. If you expose or spend more time with someone who effortlessly uses bad words, gestures or easily lose their temper, your brain can possibly sneak all those behaviour in you. So darlings, be careful and mindful about your environment and your circle. I hope you got the concept.

And... That's all for today.

Will meet you in my next blog✨